This blog is probably something I should have written two months ago, but, life! So here it goes…
Ah, New Year’s resolutions and goal-setting. You know that feeling at the start of the new year – you go into super determination mode. ‘This is going to be the best year yet!’, we all enthusiastically say. Generally, I go into a new year feeling this way, ready to take it on and start smashing those new year’s resolutions. 2019 was a little different. At the end of 2018, I was feeling super deflated and was looking forward to the start of the new year to spark some life into me again. I was so excited.
A few weeks into January and I hadn’t done very much in order to start accomplishing some of the 2019 goals I had written down for myself. I was overwhelmed and didn’t know where to begin. I had built all these dreams and aspirations up in my mind, that if I ran out of time, or life / work got in the way, I felt flat and as though I should give up there and then.
Putting unnecessary pressure on myself, left me in a downward spiral, feeling even more demotivated, than when 2018 had come to an end. Negative thoughts & self-worth started creeping into my head – ‘You have nothing important to say’, ‘no one really cares what you have to say’, or ‘what’s the point to all of this’ – I would think to myself. Making each day miserable and difficult to get through.
While it took me sometime to realize, I started to remember WHY I started my blog – to help, motivate and hopefully provide positive influence to someone, that could quite possibly be going through the same thing as me. I reminded myself to look back on the goals I had written down at the beginning of January, two of which were, to switch the negative self-talk and damaging thoughts to uplifting ones, and, to STOP being so hard on myself.
By taking the time to re-focus and adjust my thought process, it has made all the difference in each and every day. If I am genuinely too tired and would rather stay at home and cook a nice dinner than go to the gym, then that’s what I am going to do. And if I feel like getting into bed earlier with my book, instead of studying or doing some blog stuff, that’s what I am going to do. By saying this, it doesn’t mean to make excuses, but to rather listen to your thoughts, listen to your body and do what makes sense and is comfortable to you at that moment.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that there is no one judging or putting pressure on me, other than myself. It has taken me some time to realize this, but I am so glad I finally have and can honestly say it has made me feel so much lighter, healthier and happier.
I go into each week feeling so much more motivated and relaxed than I used to – I feel as though I am in charge of my life again and I feel more inspired to conquer my dreams, by not creating unnecessary pressures for myself. Each day is treated as a reward and I do what I can, when I can.
This mind shift, has taught me that we need to do more of what makes us GENUINELY HAPPY. There is no point in making ourselves feel miserable, pressured and overwhelmed for no good reason. I can’t wait to see what the rest of 2019 has in store for me – feel recharged, focused and looking toward the future.
Here’s to making 2019 the year of making OUR SOULS HAPPY!